Yes. The change is his employment, commuting, and he works for his step dad. I'm so glad I wasn't the bad one that ruined his life. At first it hurt me bad to hear him say horrible things to me. He hasn't been as bad now but if he starts I ignore him and he stops. Yes I to think the same. He is so unhappy with work that he's finding any little thing to bash h me for. That is so sad that people can not see their actions. He refuses therapy because he claims nothing is wrong with him. Because it's ALL ME!!