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Originally Posted by ragsnfeathers
You never overwhelmed me at all. I was just afraid that my responses, based on my way of experiencing the world (which they have to be if they're honest), was starting to come across as not taking your pain seriously enough. I am drawn to your posts and will be glad to keep responding when I think I have something useful to say as long as you keep in mind where I'm coming from when you read them and realize that when I give practical suggestions it's because that's what I have to give, not that I think it's the only or even best response.
As far as me being on the Spectrum, I also don't know. I for sure know I have NVLD (nonverbal learning disabilities) but the rest...?
I can tell from your posts and your blog that you are someone who connects with a large variety of people and doesn't expect other people to be like you. This is a big one for me and a huge reason I'm drawn to you and your posts.
I REALLY hope you can sleep tonight. Take care.
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((((Rags)))) I hope I didn't respond to you in a way that made you think that I though you weren't taking me seriously. Here's how I know you and the others take me seriously: you all are posting. It also shows you care.
You respond however much or little you want to. I have no expectations. I'll take hugs and/or responses. I'll even take just being in someone's thoughts even if they don't reply. I know I'm not the only one here who struggles/is struggling. It actually makes me happy that others feel comfortable opening up or even reaching out for support on my thread. It's only "my" thread because I started it, but in reality it's all of our's thread. Sometimes getting support for oneself includes supporting others.
If you ever start worrying, just check in and/or ask for reassurance. I will be honest with you.
I like practical suggestions and logic. Logic is a strength of mine, just sometimes my emotions override it. So practical suggestions help pull me away from all the emotional pain. But honestly, I'm a closet nerd. I love math (got up to honor pre-cal in hs and tutored stats in college) and I love science. My favorite science is chemistry. And my passion is architecture: structured art that uses math.
I just looked up NVLD. Never heard of it before. I actually can relate to some of the symptoms: Concrete thinking; taking things very literally, Poor social skills; difficulty making and keeping friends, Fear of new situations, Trouble adjusting to changes, Anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and May withdraw, becoming agoraphobic. Though those symptoms for me are BPD.
I'd like to explain to you my problem with my ex-bf. I hope it doesn't offend you in anyway. I loved my ex. I was with him for 9 months. But his understanding of love and my neediness for love conflicted greatly. He wasn't capable of loving me the way I needed a partner to love me. He was a good guy. I was too much for him, and he was too little for me.
I don't talk a lot about it because we don't know what it is, but my fiance has some sort of learning, mental, and physical disabilities. But he is able to provide me with the amount of love I need from a partner, and I help him in the areas he needs help in (mostly physical labor).
Maybe this will show you how non-judgemental I am. Past people I dated: 2 with Asperger's, 1 blind, 1 cross dresser, a black guy, my fiance, and a shy guy. I've had friends from all walks of life. I even had a friend who had MS, a quadrapolegic, one who had hep a b and c, Schizophrenia, etc. I accept people for who they are and where their at. Doesn't mean I get along with everyone, allow everyone into my life, or care about everyone.
But I do care about you
