Mouse, that is really great how you are asking your T these questions and looking her in the eye more. I also think it is OK for therapists to not answer all of our questions. They need to establish their boundaries for self disclosure with the client. (I think your alcohol counselor handled it really poorly, though.) My therapist does self disclose fairly frequently, but I really never ask him to give me information. It comes willingly and voluntarily from him. That is kind of my own hang-up--I have a hard time asking, but I am a willing recipient of all he gives me. I would like to become more secure, as you were, and ask him a question (about himself/his life) outright occasionally. I do ask him more philosophical/abstract questions outright.

Anyway, good for you, mouse. Really good session.