First: Why would feminism scare you? I didn't really get that from your post. Is it because it encourages women to be assertive and confident, which intimidates you? You should rather see it as a positive thing: It not only allows women to be more than just pretty or sexy, it also allowes men to be "soft" and shy, and feminism in general is against all kinds of look pressure. It is not a bad thing for you if you are an introvert and feel bad about your looks.

Either way, combine that with your (rude AND sexist, regardless of your intent) generalizations of women... And I think you have your answer to why no one is interested in you. It is not about looks, or weight (my only really long-term boyfriend was overweight at the time), or which job you have. Personally I haven't met any women who care too much about these things (or at least not ALL of them), so I am curious where you get your impressions of women from. It is about what kind of vibe you send out, and how you appreach people. If you assume women are rude and only out to take your money, you will subconsciously act hostile or disinterested (I know this first hand as I find myself thinkign way too often that boys who show any interest in me - which doesn't happen often - are only interested in sex and only interested in me because their first choice, often one of my friends, is taken. This is a generalization as bad as yours, especially as I have many male friends who are not like that, but whenever I go out on the town I think, honestly, a lot of men act like pigs). It becomes a vicious circle which is hard to get out of. Working with that is easier than working with the weight, I think.