Webgoji,

It may be a little more complex, but I have had some success with overcoming anorgasmia. The core reason for my anorgasmia is from a loss of sensation to my penis, however I had a long period of anxiety (over a year) where the concern over not feeling my equipment and not sure whether I would ejaculate was itself causing me to not be able to orgasm.

I have had many instances where I couldn't get an erection, instances where I could but lost it with any distraction, instances where I was hard (from Viagra) but couldn't ejaculate, and even instances where I would ejaculate but without an orgasm (has this happened to you?) All this lead to a lot of anxiety of both not being able to satisfy my wife and not having "pleasure" from intercourse.

This was all very depressing, and I got to a point that where I would avoid sex to avoid the anixety and disappointment.

I have had a number of session with a sex therapist and I have worked to accept this "disability", and also worked a lot to accept that sex doesn't have to end with an orgasm. I have been learning to get pleasure from giving pleasure (ie. oral sex), and to realize that a numb penis can provide a significant amount of pleasure from penetration to my wife...without fear of ejaculating too soon. If I've taken a Viagra, I could potentially have penetrative sex with her until it wears off (though I don't think I would have enough energy to do so).

My point I have been able to remove most of my anxiety by taking away the pressure to ejaculate. Sure it's the goal of every warm-blooded man, but I have had to modify my goals to something that is achievable.

I hope this helps in some way.