Part of my issues Was my adoptive mother telling me what I thought or felt were false, that I didn't feel that way.

It's easter break now and as usual T brought up the break.

Today I said to her, I'm not denying I have feelings around the break but I feel I'm just nodding in agreement with you, I feel you're ramming it down my throat and I don't have time to think what my feelings really are.

T said, yes that's true, I do. It's also true your mother did that too and it is important for you to tell me that.

I didn't know what to say after that. The way she admitted it so quickly, threw me off a bit. But it felt good too. Gave me space to really begin to think what I maybe feeling.