You're still trying to analyze the "why" behind his behaviors...this will get you no where but an angrier and more frustrated and confused place.
I go back to the main question of my
last post, and one others now have asked too, yet you have not seemed to give hint as to your perspective -
What do you
want?
You keep spinning your wheels in the same muddy ditch without getting out on your own two legs. You're just making things muddier for yourself by continuing to ask why why why while spinning in the same spot.
What do
YOU want?