Nikki, you just posted almost exactly how I felt one session. I was also 15 minutes late. We had horrendous rain that day and I left at 4:30 to make a 6:15 and I was still 15 minutes late.
There was someone after me but he wasn't sure he'd make it at all. Well, he made it so we ended on time. I was very hurt at first. I am always early for appts about 10 minutes. I think I canceled once in the beginning.
He has seen me late sometimes like 5 or 10 minutes when he has someone in his office and three times took a call in another room for 5 minutes or a bit longer.
I have never said a word and just accommodated him. He always apologizes and I accept it. So, this one day that I ran into a problem and was hoping we could work around it. He did say I wish we had more time but we don't. So that softened the hurt feelings a little bit.
Sometimes when I think I'm his only client (which is a lot of the time) I realize that I am not. He had someone after me that day and even if he didn't, I'm not sure it would make a difference. I found myself wondering if he accommodates others but not me for some reason. That is something I'll never know so I try to push it out of my head.
This is part of the reason that I don't outright cry in sessions. Although, I almost did two sessions ago. I could just see that happening at the end and him saying okay see you next time. The rejection from that would be huge for me. I can't cry on a time schedule so when I feel like I might and it's close to the ending time. I stop.
It's not something I wish to discuss with him though. I'll just need to keep in mind that he needs to be consistent with his clients and good to himself too. This isn't a deal breaker for me. But I totally understand how you feel.
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