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Originally Posted by Rose76
Let his wife help him. I don't believe in cross gender friendships among married people, like you are describing. Find yourself some female friends. Nurture them. What happened with your sig. other? Are you two still together? If so, your guy can't be too thrilled with you having this male friend.
This friendshio hasn't been good for this guy. Now you're finding it's becoming a drag to you. It's gone on long enough, with nothing good coming out of it. Move on. Cut the strings.
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I agree, it is a toxic relationship; despit the fact that you have benefited from the friendship in financial ways as well as emotionally, it is going to cause even more long term problems.
If you are still with your significant other and he doesn't express to you any feelings against the friendship than that is Because he is trying to be supportive- like at the cost of displacing his own feelings and internalizing his suffering-
Moreover, as you said that the friendship wasn't good for either of you. the fact that you can acknowledge your need for befriending those who are "in need of a friend" is great, this is a good step forward. Now you should share this with your partner, express that it is somethi g that you feel you need or that it is something that you feel is lacking.
It is always difficult to admit a flaw or to express our weaknesses, especially to those who we feel the most love for or in some instances to those who may be most hurt to hear it; however, knowing this will allow for your partner to best support you, it will create and strengthen the closeness between the two of you and will if nothing else build the trust between the two of you for your transparency. Remebdr that it will most likely be hurtful for ypur partner to hear and accept, but it will be so much less than the potentially dangerous results of what Continuing this type of behavior could lead to