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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA
The 24/7 is for skills coaching. The idea is that someone coming into DBT needs help and it's not always at convenient times. How your T works with that piece is up to her, but one of the key aspects that gets repeated me time and again is that this is a collaborative effort between equals.
What that means is that reaching out, asking about boundaries, communicating needs - that's all expected and encouraged. You may not always get what you want, but communication is really a huge part of things. It's a collaboration - you get to work together to figure out the boundaries. If she didn't respond, you don't have facts and you don't know why. Could be she was busy. Could be she just didn't think it needed responding to. I email my T all the time and I'm very particular if I need a response that way he knows to respond to me.
It's her job to take care of herself. But I know the instinct to take care of your T as well.
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That's where I also have issues. If the relationship is based upon equals, then I want to care also. Idk. Too exhausted to think atm.
But I will talk to about these things. I need to know boundaries in order to respect her. And vice-versa.
I'm just used to my ex-T's boundaries. I'm used to emails, not text and phones. I'm used to calling only in emergencies. And not having access 24/7. But I guess I'm going to have to get used to it.