Well , I've still not contacted my friend.. ( I posted the backround in the new memeber section) .........been doing other things /seeing other friends.She's not contacted me either. The thing is,one or 2 people have said I shouldn't take her behaviour at face value.I guess recently I've adopted the approach."She's broken off contact ,therefore she doesn't want me around.She knows she's behaved hurtfully so it's up to her to put that right if she wants to.She can get in touch with me if she feels that's what she wants " (Course then I'd have to see how I feel about it).

Some people have said though that because she's ill,it's not so straightforward-she may be regretting what she's done but feel unable to contact me because of her illness and because she knows she's hurt me.They say she said she cares about me so it shows this isn't what she really wants and it's up to me to make the first move.I don't know how they can know all these things..............is not right to just say,she's brought about this situation and if she wants to alter it,she's quite capable of doing so.Is that too harsh?