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Apr 02, 2015, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Rose76
It sounds like the police, at least, were somewhat reasonable. Anyone restraining you physically, as you describe, is guilty of "false imprisonment," and can be subject to arrest. If anyone earnestly thought you were a danger to yourself, their only recourse would be to call the police. Your son has no right to put his hands on you.
It does sound to me like your psychologist's conduct was not what I would be willing to accept. I hope you do find someone to see who will act differently and be supportive of you.
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Thank you for your thoughtful response. It sometimes takes me a while to see the whole picture but I have since arrived at the probably conclusion that the psychologist turned against me due to a comment that I made when we had a short discussion of the state of the world today and I said I was not happy with Obama for not closing the borders to Ebola like all other countries.
He put a video on you-tube mocking people who want to blame Obama for everything (he is black himself - and i deny being a racist or I never would have shared such intimate details with someone I'm said to hate) As i look back that is when his attitude changed. I believe that he called my son and asked him to come back because my son said he was through - and I think he poisoned my son's mind. I realize that may sound a bit paranoid but it seems logical to me because they are both equally cold to me - and, I was just thinking today - don't know why it didn't occur to me earlier - that part of the psychologists job should have been to educate my son about BPD so that he might not take my anger personally. I think he failed to educate my son and that he and my son put their heads together and hatched a plan to humiliate me and deprive me of my freedom. That seems a good way to get vengeance.
If my son really wanted to help something like "Mom I'm worried about you - I think you should consider checking into a clinic - I'll take you if you want to go so you don't feel afraid."
He had no intentions of such a thing - the first words out of his mouth were accusatory and belligerent - it is hard for me to 'wrap my mind around' any child of mine scheming to humiliate me and i do believe he did - there is no other explanation for his entreaties to meet suddenly where before there were none and then his alienating words. And after talking for only 3 minutes or so he went outside and immediately called the police. Are we to believe that within that 3 minutes I went off into babbling lunacy. Funny because the waitress saw nothing odd about me.
I am lucky that the restaurant I chose was in Johnson County Kansas as its an entirely different environment, a wealthy county, as opposed to Jackson County Missouri where I live which is very much rough and tumble and a good place to go if you want to commit suicide by cop.
Knowing that my son WANTED to humiliate me - and the memory of his hands on me forcefully restricting me - and I looked in his eyes that appeared not sad but smug at his actions.- is right at the top of my list of my most painful memories.
Yes, I realize my son violated the law legally/technically - I even told him that while he was restraining me - he didn't bat an eye. he was cold and calcuating and cunning. Can you imagine if what I do not know but suspect is true had come to fruition - if I was confined because of the grudge my psychologist had toward me - they could have deliberately given me medications that would make me worse. STUFF HAPPENS. it sounds paranoid - people tend to disbelieve people like us the MENTALLY ILL you know, which makes us vulnerable. My mind was fortunately working quite well that day and unlike some days I was able to explain myself coherently and intelligently - the officer even said so. Oh if they had been successful - what kind of attitude to start out with locked away knowing my son did it out of vengeance.
I have always been fairly well attuned to others, their moods etc. and insight into their actions - not because I am clairvoyant but because I am very observant. I observe myself and others a lot - its part of my 'thing" in this case a good thing.
The things I suspect are not wild imaginings - it is only common sense that the way to help someone is not to force them to be wisked away in handcuffs. Maybe if they were a real threat and refused to listen but that was not the case.
I do not feel as angry - just sad and bewildered i would never have thought my sons capable and apparently my younger son has taken advantage of the situatioin to not return calls or emails. My son wants to humiliate me but I think, as much as I am loathe to have any self-esteeem, that his treatment of me is what was disgraceful.
Thanks for your thoughts - of course I'm glad your thinking is similar to mine. its not easy to appreciate comments in the alternative. 
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