(((Scarlet)))
Give it some time, and don't pour your whole self into the relationship too soon. Keep yourself safe, and accept that no one is perfect. Maybe this relationship will work, maybe it won't. You don't know yet, but unless you give it a chance you never will.
FWIW, I felt like I was smarter than previous T, and I felt like I made her feel inadequate and I should hide my intelligence from her... I don't know how much of that was just transference, but I will say there are all kinds of intelligence. You are probably smarter than her in some ways, and she smarter than you in others.