Ok, so you grew up with parents that were equal to each other and considered each other.
You most likely want that for yourself too.

Everything I am reading is more about "his needs" and not yours, and he want's control, could be why he is also not happy at work too, again, no control. He is "all" about himself, and you are not seeing it, you are also wondering if it is "your fault". If he doesn't get "his" way, he disguards and blames others.

Warning, some guys want their wife to get pregnant as a way to trap them or tie them down so they have more control over the wife. However, this is bad because then they see the baby as competition too, when all they really wanted is to control the wife. This is not good at all, not anything you would ever want to have a child with as he is saying to you that if he doesn't have it "his" way, then you are out. That can lead to a divorce, and, the child becomes the victim, with this ongoing battle for control and blaming.

You are only 24, you have plenty of time to think about children, you need to have "yourself" together "first". It is clear to every poster here that your husband wants all the control, that is not good for "you". Keep in mind, people are posting here to you with more life experience, some learned the hard way and can see "the red flags" that you are wondering if "you" are doing something wrong or contemplating giving in somehow.