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Originally Posted by JustShakey
(((Scarlet)))
Give it some time, and don't pour your whole self into the relationship too soon. Keep yourself safe, and accept that no one is perfect. Maybe this relationship will work, maybe it won't. You don't know yet, but unless you give it a chance you never will. 
FWIW, I felt like I was smarter than previous T, and I felt like I made her feel inadequate and I should hide my intelligence from her... I don't know how much of that was just transference, but I will say there are all kinds of intelligence. You are probably smarter than her in some ways, and she smarter than you in others. |
I didn't mean to imply she's dumb. She's not. And I know she's smarter than me in some areas and has different strengths and weaknesses. My fear is that I might be smarter than her in psychology. I had a T quit once before because of this. But I'm usually very humble? about my intelligence. I worked as a math tutor for learning disabled students. I didn't do that to feel superior. I did that to pass on some techniques I learned to help them reavh their goals of understanding math and completing college. My issue is that this is my T's field. I do expect a higher level of knowledge in this field.
But...the one good thing...I'm not skilled at DBT. I know the basics and understand the concepts, but I'm still very much a novice. So maybe that's the area of knowledge I have to stay focused on instead of psychology?