There's a difference btwn judgment and judgmental. We all make judgments...even babies and animals. It's a necessary part of life to keep us safe. But to me, and maybe I'm wrong, but to use judgments to make yourself feel better or to put someone else down is inappropriate. Something that someone with a non-judgmental stance shouldn't do.

She's going to a reunion. They were mean to her last time. She's going this time to show all that she's accomplished (a healthy aspect). But then she started getting into how they look old and wrinkled and she's not. And that their choices to do drugs caused that.

Here's my email in response:
Sorry to write yet again. This isn't important to discuss, but something you said bothered me. It was about your reunion. You might have said "facts" about your past ex-classmate, but you are using those facts to make you feel better about yourself. That's passing judgment. You're a beautiful woman no matter what your age is. There's no need to compare yourself to them. You don't know where their life has taken them, and they don't know yours. Be proud of yourself, but for who you are and what you've done, not because of who they aren't and what they haven't done.
I'm trying to move forward, but it's really scary for me. All of this is. I am still struggling w/o ex-T, I'm still scared of people, and I'm pretty emotionally exhausted from all this. But I also don't want to self-sabotage or make a rash decision.

I'm sorry, but this all isn't easy for me