I was signed out till tonight but I kept thinking about Brown Owl's post and felt compelled to sign in again to modify what I posted.

It does sound, from what I learned about DBT from here and google, that DBT has a lot that would make it a good choice for you right now. I'm thinking of the skills but also about the fact that, even though therapy is a relationship, the focus is larger than that. There is a bigger structure and also a connected group, which hopefully will help to balance some of the intensity of the one on one therapy and make it not so isolating. And the therapist so far, from what you posted about her, sounds competent enough to me. I liked her advice about depression and a lot of what else she said, and she seems good enough with boundaries.

I didn't want to say this at first because you say you strongly don't want to do this, but interviewing a couple of therapists, especially DBT ones, at this stage could be a good idea so you can get a sense of how different people operate and how you connect with a few people. Right now at the beginning, therapy shopping is still perfectly reasonable and having a therapist already might take some of the anxiety out. Then if you stay with the therapist you have, which sounds likely, there will be less chance of the "what it's" surfacing.

Okay, this is definitely in the category of, "Take what works for you and leave the rest."

I hope today is good.