Hey PhoenixRain - I totally relate to your comment on learning to be angry at others instead of myself. I have been accepting the blame for my mother's ruined life.. well, since before I was born. I even felt sorry for her! I've never actually gotten mad at her because I'm "not allowed", plus she would just say it wasn't her fault or that she did the best she could... blah blah blah...

I've been trying very hard to refocus that anger. It's not easy, but it's liberating.

Good luck, friend!

-Tiger