The whole godmother situation just shows how little some people know about mental illness and how little they understand and how unempathetic they can be. I hope your bestie comes around. Maybe once you get more of a handle on your diagnosis you can point your friend to some helpful information or some first hand accounts of what bipolar is really about so she can understand better. If your friend is into reading or willing to read one book a lot of people point loved ones to to help them understand bipolar better is "An Unquiet Mind" by Kay Redfield Jamison. It's a good read, and it has a good perspective on how bipolar works and how a person can cope and still live a productive life despite the highs and lows, and even highlights the positives, like the creativity. I had my mom read that book when I finished it after I got diagnosed and it helped her understand that it's not just rapid mood swings and suicidality and craziness and anger like most people think.