Yes! I'm a guy, by the way. This very much has happened to me and likely will continue. I'm able to do certain things, especially things like kissing and hugging, but when it gets more intimate, is when anxiety becomes a problem. It's no secret that if a man and a woman are anxious as hell, ther'es a good chance they can't "perform", so then it obviously becomes a problem. I fear this for my next relationship.

As long as the women I hope to next be with will be understanding and patient, I think it will be OK... but if you aren't comfortable... if you aren't MADE to FEEL comfortable, then I think there's a problem. My last ex? Wonderful, she made me feel like it was OK to be my messed up self. Ex before her? Terrible, she made me feel horrible. Your guy should be working with you on this.