You are also the one having issues....YOU are allowing him to behave the way he's behaving with you....you haven't drawn the line & let him know that you aren't going to take it any longer & YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH.....you are just rolling over & playing dead & not even standing up for yourself.....& you are just accepting his excuses not striking back at all the crap he's making you deal with.....STOP DEALING WITH IT & TAKE A STAND for yourself.

When I first got married my H really got into his sarcasm & was putting me down & thinking he was funny. At first, I decided to give it back to him...like if he didn't like it done to him he would quit....but what happened was that I hated what it was making me into.....so I told him that if he didn't stop the sarcasm....he could get out & stay out because I wasn't going to continue to live like that. He decided that he would change after a conversation.....it took a year of constantly reminding him of what he was doing before he finally broke that habit.....the problem with it was that I had total lack of respect for him......& that reflected in all the miserable 33 years I stayed around him. The misery never got better, it continued to get worse.....

Why in the world are you taking his crap & not taking a stand for yourself....it's like your own self-confidence is lacking somewhere in the picture because no women should ever take that kind of crap from their H's that you are dealing with.