New here, although I've been getting the newsletter.

I am a 62 yo man, who has developed a teenlike crush on a 23 yo woman who is involved in an organization that I work with. The feelings developed over about 6 months of interaction. I struggled for a month, then wrote her a confessional email, clearly saying that I knew it was absurd, and that I simply felt a strong need to tell her of my feeling. Well, this became somewhat of an organizational matter, and I have been banned from communication with this person except if task related. We have just had minimal interaction, friendly and non-malicious, but circumscribed.

The problem is that my feelings remain. I am not crazily obsessed or unbalanced by them; I gave managed to mellow a bit in some ways through my decades. I would like a way to attenuate these feelings, while admitting my strong craving to be sweet on someone with some reciprocal potential, maybe even who loves me. But I would not say that I have had these feelings many times in my life, but most of the times they have been equally misplaced, in various ways.