(((Granite))) I did something when I was a child I am ashsmed of. The logical me knows I was a confused child then, but I understand the shame.

I hope you can find a way to tell your T even if it is bit by bit. Maybe just starting by saying her assumptions are wrong and you are anxious about putting her straight because she may judge you.

I guess somehow we just need to work on self forgiveness, you did what you did as a child, with a child's logic. Kids don't get to drive cars, not because they're too small to reach the pedals, but because of immaturity, their brains see things differently to adults.

Soup