Quote:
Originally Posted by toolman65
Your husband wants it to be the year 1965. He expects you to be a stay at home wife, with a child, totally dependant on him. Greet him at the door with a martini, have dinner on the table and sit in awe as he describes his day.
Shows like "The **** Van Dyke show" early episodes of "Mad Men" or even the "Flintstones" come to mind.
He is living in a fantasy world. A world that you are helping to maintain.
Why does he treat you the way he does?
Because he can.
IF you truly want the situation to change, then YOU must change the way you react to his actions.
Being submissive only invites more abuse (and you are being abused, btw).
Countering immature behaviour with your own immaturity solves nothing.
I would suggest you consider divorce, but part of me suspects you like the drama this relationship brings you. I mean, why else would you stay, let alone go back to him?
|
I don't think that's an issue (him wanting old fashioned marriage) .
He is upset he is the only one paying bills and he is like a father to her not a husband. If he wanted a submissive not working wife then he would have different complains. He is a jerk but op sounds as a child with no voice of her own.
He is miserable in this marriage and wants out but has no guts to get out so he is preparing gradually buying the house for himself staying out of the house on the weekends etc
I am sorry I know it is not what op wants to hear but this marriage is not going to last. Instead of spending time figuring out why is he doing what he is doing or coming up with ideas how to make him be nice, I would start thinking of what I am doing and what I want and plan accordingly.
You already got screwed by contributing to a house that is his, what else are you waiting for? He is building a case here of getting out if this with little loss (he stopped paying for school and doesn't want to support you)
Start your exit
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk