I'm bothered by them as well, even though, I try to tell myself that they mean well but some days that just doesn't help. I have been better but I've been a lot worse, too. I know that people just don't know what to say so they come up with these platitudes that make me feel worse about my situation. The other one that gets me is "just pray about it" do they think I haven't. Some days I'm just not ready for advise, well meaning or otherwise. I would rather them just say "I don't know what to say", at least that would be the truth.