i provide counseling to kids and receive lots of referrals from the schools. there is one particular middle school i call the "drama capital" of the city because every girl i see that goes there reports so much drama in their relationships with their friends. i listen to them and their issues and i say, let me guess, you go to school x? reading your post about your friend so reminded me of the girls at school x. she is acting like a middle schooler. it seems she wants to control the relationship, be in charge, change the rules as she sees fit, they apply to others but not to her. you will forever have to put up with this inconsistency and lack of support if you choose to stay in this relationship because the focus needs to be on her. you can try telling her how you feel using i statements. i feel confused when i do something and it is considered rude because it seems ok in other situations. what i would like is to understand why when i do something it is considered attention seeking but when others do it it is ok. i might try i feel really hurt/confused when i hear all these negative comments made about my behavior because i dont understand how my friendship can be appreciated if there are so many negative opinions of me. what i would like to know is what there is to value about my friendship. just an idea.......i dont like drama myself and wouldnt bother with her anymore. i believe my friendship is a valuable commodity and i am not going to waste it on someone who doesnt appreciate me. take care.