I'm sorry you went through all that. It sounds incredibly frustrating. I agree with the idea of using a planner. I live out of mine. It's a big help.
Just a side note on the med side of things. I saw you're on wellbutrin. Wellbutrin used to be used a lot for ADD when docs didn't want to use a stimulant, and before Strattera, but you're probably not at a high enough dose. I don't know if maybe trying a higher dose and seeing if that helps any is something you want to think about mentioning at an upcoming appt? Just an idea.