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Originally Posted by notthisagain
I don't do so well in group situations, either. I can talk to people one-on-one, but in a group setting, forget it. Doesn't necessarily matter how well I know the other people in the group either.
Maybe you other introverts out there can identify with this, but I think sometimes that most people are really just crappy at communicating. I don't think it really occurs to extroverts that there's nothing wrong with us introverts; we're not quiet because we are standoffish or because we have nothing to contribute. I find that a lot of people like to just talk about nothing, or that they like to interrupt each other. I worked in an office like that, and I felt really uncomfortable. I was probably the only person in that office that didn't play golf, and guess what they talked about all the time? And, when I found a way to actually say something, they looked at me as if to say, "It speaks!" Well, yeah, I do, when there is a subject that I am interested in or actually know something about. I know it is just the way that I am wired, but I wonder sometimes if extroverts realize that they alienate us introverts with some of their behaviors?
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I'm pretty much the same way! I literally can't handle talking to more than two people at once! Being in groups will always be intimidating and awkward for me! I'd avoid being around groups 100% if only I could! That's not always possible though of course!
I can relate to what you said! I often feel as if I don't have much in common with whatever the group is talking about at the moment. Even if I did have something to say, there is always that one person who monopolizes the conversation.
I dislike having to compete for attention, so I don't. I hate it when other people interrupt me too. Or sometimes I say something and it seems like no one has heard what I said. They act as if they didn't hear me at all which is frustrating, rude, and embarrassing, ugh!