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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
I recently found some really good videos about narcissistic people. This one lady explains things very well on youtube.
I have attracted a few narcissistic people in my life, but now I know when to spot one and run! They always look for people who are lonely, vulnerable, empathetic, and naive. You'll never ever be able to change a narcissistic person!
Basically, they lack empathy, they gaslight, they can't tolerate criticism, they expect constant praise and attention, they are stingy, they love to talk about themselves all the time, and they'll often tune out and appear not to be there when you talk to them, they are irresponsible, they often give thoughtless gifts to people that they know well because well, being thoughtful is not in their nature, it's also not unusual to have other disorders, fetishes, odd behaviors and habits, etc...
They are parasites looking for hosts. Does anyone have any stories to share about dealing with a narcissistic person in their life or any other signs to look out for? |
I didn't look at the links you posted, but your own descriptions are so concise and accurate. You, obviously, have experienced the narcissist and know now what to look for! Congrats to you! It took me 3+ years of research and reading to understand that I had been the victim of a narcissist. I didn't stop after that. I had several prior and post this realization narcissists. I realized I had been a "magnet" for narcissistic men all my life! A psychologist/counselor once called my behavior an "addiction." It took me many years thereafter to realize what he said was true. Letting go, breaking the "addiction" to this type of relationship was a slow type of withdrawal. I know, truly, that I could not have done this in my younger days. It is only because I'm older and have lost so much emotionally and financially that I have "sobered up," and become more discerning I'm age 64. Any time I venture out into a social setting and feel myself being attracted to a man, I'm much suspicious....mainly because of the lack of judgment I experienced prior, and which has led me to my current financial status. Had I abstained from seeking company upon my divorce at age 47, my house would be paid off, and I'd be sitting pretty. As it is, I have a mortgage in retirement, as well as other expenses which could have been avoided. This was due to my involvement with Narcissists.
I could go on describing, but basically, I was an "N" magnet.