I'm just throwing this out as a possibility but it sounds like her touch fulfilled a need for you. You didn't realize it until you had it so now is a chance to explore what that need really is. You stated that you don't get it from your husband nor your family so it makes sense that you would enjoy it from your T who you have a connection and relationship with.

Is it maybe that you don't feel you are worthy of being loved/touched by others? Both in a physical or emotional sense? But when you do get it from someone who you connect with and respect, you are allowing yourself to get it and you love it.

I'm just thinking that maybe this situation with your T is actually helpful because now you can explore what that need really is and why you have it. I'm not sure what brought you to your T to begin with but it might be because of a void that you feel you have that is causing you distress.

What is it deep down that you get from her touch? Did you finally feel important and cared for? Or was it that you finally felt accepted and validated? I can't answer that for you, nor can anyone else but I think it is this "need" that you need to be discussing with your T, not how mad you are at her. Maybe it isn't her that is frustrating you, it is the feeling that you got from her touch and what it meant to you to have that feeling taken away.

Again, just my thoughts, but maybe this is another way to look at it.