Hi,

I have a new therapist who speacialises in trauma and dissociation. Sounds like a good fit, but the only trouble is he scares the hell out of me due to being both a human being, and a man...although that may very possibly not be his fault. ;-)

Basically, I was completely unable to talk during our first couple of sessions. I suggested writing some stuff down for him, and he said that would be helpful.

So, here I am writing stuff down, and a lot of the stuff about the childhood abuse and the adult domestic abuse situation is flowing fairly naturally. But should I be telling him that stuff when we're only 3 sessions in?? I wanted to give him some context as to why I'm struggling with him being a man. I wanted to give him some context as to what I meant when I said 'I've lived in a different world'.

But is this weird?? I've gone from saying nothing, to being able to write a page and a half of A4. I'm frequently able to write what I can't say, but should I be holding back a bit? I haven't sent it to him yet.I don't want to be doing anything crazy. I feel like I am ok with him having the information, but I don't want him to think I'm nuts for suddenly telling him it.

For those from longterm abuse situations, particularly those who have never NOT experienced trauma, how much did you tell, and how soon did you tell it?

Thanks

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