Just my prospective, you can not get over this because her letting you crying on her full filled a need of yours that was not met as a child. For awhile she provided this need to help you progressive with your therapy. However, this not a good way, best way is to be able to self soothe and you can learn those skills to do so. You will not be able to do so with someone always holding you especially someone who is not part of your personal life (like your T). Its different when you cry in front of your love (including friends) ones as they can hold you if you need a shoulder to cry on and full filled this need at some level, a therapist can not do this as they are not friends or family but someone to help guide you into developing healthy thing patterns etc

Right now you reaction its seems is being dominated with your "inner child". Only thing is your not a child, and that a maladaptive pattern or expectation to have with any adult (not everyone can hold you when you cry) and its unrealistic expectation to have, of course its okay once and awhile but every time you cry it is excessive. You have to be able to comfort yourself. People still care even if you cry and they do not hold you, I think its a change and its hard for you to except that change...but it sounds like ( i read the emails in the other thread) she cares and you may not realize it but she is actually doing this for your benefit so you do not continue to have this expectation, she maybe should have told you before stopping as it could prevent such a intense reaction from you. But to be honest any adult could stop for the same reason as it because unrealistic, and maladaptive, the whole point of therapy is to work through your issues holding you back, develop coping skills to understand, deal with emotions and self soothe--to help you become a healthy adult so YOU can live a great life. If you have attachment issues this is a good thing to learn as even if someone does not or cant hold you does NOT mean they do not love you or care for you, that will not change. Maybe view this a challenge see it and accept it . Challenge yourself to make a change and say okay how can I develop the skills to self soothe, accept change and not push everyone away? Your T can help to do those things. The reason im assuming your in therapy is to move past your issues to be able to develop healthy attachments to others and live the life you want, wellyou can do it and if you need to tell her you need reassurance, its okay as these skills take awhile to develop (ask her to tell you or for a hug) I'm not scolding your or saying this or that...im just giving you my perspective. I hope you find peace and everything works out for you (im sure it will) just know she not out to hurt you (even it feels like it).