I asked twice and both of them dodged the question and made it about me, like "Why do you want to know?" or "How would it affect our relationship?" And eventually, "I think it's best we stay focused on your issues and help you get better." I felt humiliated for asking. So now I don't ask. I had thought that since they knew so much personal intimate stuff about me, I could learn just a few things about them but I guess I keep forgetting therapy is not like friendship, it's a one way street, a pro and a patient, one talks, one listens, one pays, one gets paid, etc.