thanks JS I just don't know how to be a mother to him any more and it is really hard . he went into the military when he was just 18 in fact he turned 18 graduated from HS and entered the military all in the same two weeks . and I have not had any experience in how to be a mother to him at this time in his life. I have not been able to grow into it with him . it is like five years of his life and our relationship as mother and son at this point is missing. I know it is stupid but I don't have a clue . he has been sheltered in the marines and is young in so many ways and very old in others. I had to explain what a bank check was to him the other day and how to get one . he is having a bit of a hard time adjusting to civilian life and I don't know how to help him or be an acceptable mother . I just a horrible basket case and no help from my husband