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Originally Posted by Soccer mom
My needs have been to feel like someone is always there for me, cares for me, will tell me I'll be ok, etc. I'm happily married and have supportive friends but I seem to want this from a motherly figure.
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I'm right there with you! I've been talking a lot with my T on how to love myself and fill those needs myself so that I don't rely on others to do it for me. Once I feel like I trust someone and let them in, I want them to always be there and always validate me and make me feel cared for.
I think the biggest think is to learn how to love ourselves first and have self-compassion so that we don't need others to fill that void and those needs. It's not easy to learn self-compassion when these feelings of inadequacy are so ingrained in us but it is possible. It takes more patience than I am willing to have sometimes but the effort is what really matters.