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Originally Posted by Partless
I asked twice and both of them dodged the question and made it about me, like "Why do you want to know?" or "How would it affect our relationship?" And eventually, "I think it's best we stay focused on your issues and help you get better." I felt humiliated for asking. So now I don't ask. I had thought that since they knew so much personal intimate stuff about me, I could learn just a few things about them but I guess I keep forgetting therapy is not like friendship, it's a one way street, a pro and a patient, one talks, one listens, one pays, one gets paid, etc.
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I'm struggling with this very thing with my own T right now. Not the sexual orientation thing because that really wouldn't make a jot of difference but the rest of it I think really does. I've come to realise that knowing exactly nothing about mine other than her name has really caused some roadblocks, I'm continuously having issues learning to trust someone who can make me feel I'm not deserving enough to know even the smallest of detail about them. I'm struggling to share the deepest most painful parts of myself with someone I know nothing about. And yet on the other hand I have somehow become so very attached to this non person and that in itself causes pain.
Your t making you feel humiliated for asking something about them? I can't see how in the world that can ever aid the therapeutic relationship.
To answer the OPs question, I haven't asked
she wouldn't tell me, she wears a wedding ring so I assume from that she has a partner which could be of either gender.