I think when we have a secure attachment, we feel very comfortable in the relationship - we don't worry that they will hurt us or abandon us. No jealousy - just very comfortable with the relationship.

I think there's always a level of dependency. Do I depend on T. for the basics of life? No and can't. Do I depend on her to help me, be at every session, know what she's doing, have a general care towards me? Yes. Do I depend on her to get me through every day? No and that would be problematic.