Thanks Monalisasmile. I have probably been the champion in sending "I quit" emails over that time, but more recently have felt a little more settled. I think I have been scared of being dependent (I'm a "I need no-one I can do this myself" sort of person), but I think that is changing and my relationship with T feels.......more grown up maybe.

And yes Soccer Mom, maybe there isn't a definite distinction between the two, I have on a couple of occasions asked for extra sessions over the years when I was really struggling, so maybe at those times it felt more a dependency.