I also wanted to add that my T says it's ok to need the tough for as long as i need it. That I'm the one who will.know when I'm ready to let it go. She doesn't worry about me never being able to be independent. That's not a natural progression. If I can't eventually move past the NEED ( which isn't to say I won't find it comforting and some times WANT it but I won't have that desperate need) then we are missing something in my therapy and need to dig until we find it. The natural progression is for children to be very clingy in the early years and get less so as their attachment becomes more secure and they development more attachments outside the family unit. She says it realistically could take years to reach a point where I don't feel like i NEED her and that's ok. she feels oineed to just let it happen, experience being loved and experience having my needs met reliably. I say it's like mmagic but she says this is how early care taking relationships work. For example she is on vacation for 2 weeks right now which I had trouble dealing with. I usually keep a small stuffed wolf in her office ( wolf is my totem animal and I call my inner child "little wolf"). I said the best thing would be for her to take little wolf with her when she went but I knew she wouldn't so I'd probably take her home for the 2 weeks. She responded with " if it will make my absence a lot easier for you why wouldn't I take little wolf with me? It's an easy thing to do and would mean so much to you. Of course I'll take her with me". ..i was floored and amazed. It seemed like true magic. ..i hope you can find what you need to heal with your T. I wish she wasn't rushing you to be independent before you were ready...