I realize now, in retrospect, that my relationships with men had been varying degrees of narcissists, but the one that led me to research was a textbook narcissist. When I would deign to question anything of him, a dark shadow would come over his face, and his eyes would become dead.
Very early on in the relationship, after meeting thru Match.com, he began talking of marriage. I was naïve, and we lived almost two hours apart. We began looking at real estate between our two locations, since we were both employed. We found a lovely farm, and made the initial steps to purchase it. The first evidence I should have noticed was during the meeting with the realtor, my partner stated he had nothing to contribute toward the purchase. Like a dummy, I went ahead and signed the agreement. So the purchase was in effect, and the sale of my house came thru! Then...my partner tells me he has been notified by the state of Indiana that his wages are being garnisheed by the IRS and also for back child support! Hearing this news, I realized that the property, which would be purchased in both our names, would be subject to seizure and affected by his status in IRS and back child support, I called the realtor and cancelled the sale of my house (much to the realtor's unhappiness!). After that, the man, my "partner" disappeared!