Hi Edwyn,
I too grew up in fear of religion and everything that goes with it. You were to fear God, fear the nuns, fear the priests, etc., etc.
I think part of one of Sky's posts was that if you do not accept Christ then you are never forgiven. Sky I mean no disrespect - only my opinion

Thankfully, I don't believe any of that!
Every religion thinks they have the right answer - so that would mean that either there are several different versions of heaven, or we all go there regardless of what religion tells us.
I believe that if we lead a good life and do the best that we can, we will all go to a better place. The only person that will judge us is ourselves.
Having this belief helps me not be hung up over these types of issues. I don't believe in a "God", I believe in an energy source that is the culmination of all the good vibrations here. I don't want to live my life in fear of something unknown. I have enough of my own other issues to add another one to the pot
Strictly my opinions - I think all of you are great people and I'll see you on the other side some day.
Tranquility