I feel like mine does all the time. There are certain things I want her to tell me due to maternal transference and emotional neglect. She has said them once or twice but won't otherwise because she wants me to get them from her actions and not be dependent on her words.

There are many times she has not done something I wanted because, in the end, it would have been a bad idea/fostered too much dependency, etc.

it's hard but I know I won't get stuck in therapy - she's forcing me to grieve what I didn't get or seek it out elsewhere. Otherwise, I would probably have to move in with her...