I admit I asked my T selfishly. .. like "you aren't going to do this, right? ??? Because it will kill me"....she said it hurt her heart terribly the know another T had done something like that ( even though she knows there are bad T's out there) to someone with the kind of deep attachment wounds I have. She thought it was an abuse of trust. She doesn't think a T should EVER offer support they are not willing to continue giving unless it's carefully discussed first so no one is hurt. For example no matter how close we are she still doesn't answer reliably on weekends except at night before bed. If she does text me during the day on a weekend she will say " I just happen to have a quiet moment" or something to make it clear it's not a usual thing. She knows she needs that time. Touch is powerful and she said that scares some Ts. It's like a loss of control.... Anyway she felt terribly for you and thought it was awful...