Hi all,
I need a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now, and I have lived with him for most of that time. In the beginning of our relationship, I had many male friends from college, and I hung out with them without my boyfriend on occasion and there were no issues. My boyfriend was very trusting and accepted that I had a wide variety of friends. However, within the last few months, my boyfriend has harbored a resentment against one of my male friends whom he has never met and I have only hung out with once during our relationship. It all started when my boyfriend tried to friend him on facebook, and my friend never accepted his request... I dont speak to this friend much anymore, and it seemed very odd for me to ask him why he didnt accept my boyfriends friend request because it seemed trivial to me. My boyfriend began becoming suspicious of my friend, accusing me of seeing him secretly when he has absolutely no proof that I have. I have never been unfaithful to my boyfriend nor given him a reason to be jealous or suspicious. Since then, my boyfriend has begun making off hand comments about all sorts of people, even a lesbian in my class. Once, he left me alone with one of his friends and later accused me of letting his friend dance with me or touch me, which did not happen at all!

My boyfriend is about to leave on a long business trip, and I know he is worried about leaving me alone. He continues to make off hand comments about me "going to the club withoit him" (i dont ever go out anyway!) And chatting up other men on facebook because I'm lonely. These are all rediculous claims, and I'm not sure whats causing them since he was not always jealous. Its beginning to drive a wedge between us. I am an independant young woman and need to be able to live my life without my boyfriend accusing me of these things. I love my boyfriend very much and I want to work through this. What is going on in his mind, and how can we work through this so that his trip away can go smoothly?