This is so true! I resent being valued based on my appearance. I dont want to play into that at all. But I guess I fall for that myself once in a while. Life has taught me not to be judgemental, since I have always had body-issues, and I know that a person who is overweight is fighting quite a battle. I have had periods in my life when I have been "skinny" and quite toned, but after I got sick, all that went out the window... I remember when I had a pretty severe period of depression, and I basically stopped eating. I lost so much weight that my family and my doc was worried. But people who did not know what was wrong, gave me compliments about how great I looked being so skinny. So there is always a reason. A depression plays out differently for different people. Some people put on weight then, some people put on weight based on meds and illness, etc. And if one have an unhealthy lifestyle that is really hard to change, for a lot of reasons.