I have an update. I texted him on his birthday and it went well. He replied, we had a short chat and we met later that day.

Things have gone downhill since then and our relationship is nearly non-existent. I'm bogged down with really horrible life stuff like money and job issues and my avpd and depression is way out of hand. The last few weeks have been a nightmare. Two years ago I thought things couldn't get any worse but they have and I'm scared for myself.