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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
I can relate so strongly to everything you say, particularly about the chemistry. I never would have admitted that the chemistry was due to transference, because it felt so very real, but my eyes are starting to be opened to how much of it was maternal transference due to my mother's death (yeah, weird right? Male T and ET to boot) He mishandled it, and I'm having to let that go.
I know your T hurt you much worse than mine did. Are you still planning to report her? (sorry if I've missed a thread I haven't been on here much)
I think you have to know inside yourself that contacting her is harming you and care enough to change it before you can stop. I really hope you do, because you really do deserve better.
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God, I've been knocking around PC for a while now and I am still
none the wiser at being able to differentiate between transference and 'real' feelings. I'm sure there is some of it that is transference, but it sure doesn't seem like it's the whole story.
I can't let go, because she said we could be in each other's lives for always. I wish I could move on and forget her, but I can't - and not contacting her feels like it's harming me too
