There are issues within the relationship and this person is sort of tangled in them as well. He has jealousy issues and tends to feel very insecure – enough to make accusations that I feel are unjust as I don’t have issues being faithful.

I guess I get angry at him because I know that he never accused her of the deceit and lack of respect that cheating would require and she deserved it whereas I am not married, haven’t been and don’t have a history of cheating.

I am resentful of the fact that he can allow his jealousy and insecurities to fester to the point where he would actually ask me if I slept with someone and his words tend to be more pointed and hurtful.

I guess instead of comparing how he treated her to how he treats me I should just demand better of him. It just kind of kills me to know that someone who didn’t deserve to be treated like a queen was treated as exactly that whereas I am having to defend myself and PROVE I am loyal.

It’s hard not to wonder what about me makes him feel it is ok to treat me the way he does when his suspicions get the better of him when it seems as though his judgment of character is off and has been (i.e. his involvement with her). Does that make any sense at all?