Bill - Yes I believe his lack of trust and his accusations are the root of our issues. He also kind of damaged my relationship with my best friend.

See in the recent past, this ex of his was posting things to her social media that triggered me and started to turn from an annoyance to making me feel terribly uncomfortable.

His ex visited my best friend unbeknownst to me in NYC. My bff used to work with all of us and his ex never showed one iota of interest in getting to know my bff until she started to have some strange need to impose on my life. My gut says that she wanted intel on me to figure out if I was a threat to her.

Anyhow, I was venting about the ex to my bff and she let me know that the ex had visited her and even stayed with her once. I was beside myself and felt betrayed by my bff. Why would she welcome someone who was so odd into her life? So, we were talking and details about the relationship between the ex and my boyfriend came out. I was a glutton for punishment I guess and I listened.

I would get upset and go to my boyfriend to ask questions about things I learned. It was disturbing and hurtful to me. I asked him to contact his ex and ask her to stop what she was doing as it was causing me a lot of negative feelings. He said he would...

He expressed contempt towards my bff for hurting me by letting his ex stay with her and for feeding me more information than I needed to hear. He said it was not her place to share relationship details with me and that it targeted him. He believed it was intended to damage OUR relationship and he expressed how angry he was about that. He mentioned wanting to confront my bff and I asked him not to...I knew it would only escalate things.

Well after a heated talk about his ex and my bff, I go to bed and when I wake up I get a text from my bff stating that my boyfriend sent her a rude text asking if she would like it if he shared details about her relationships with people who didn't need to know them. She was very upset by him and has since noted that she does not like him. The feelings of distaste are mutual now which hurts ME even more than I had been by all of this drama.

Now there is tension between the two most important people in my life and I am not able to speak about them to each other. This makes things VERY hard on me as they are both such special people in my life.

Not to mention my boyfriend never did contact his ex like I had asked him BUT did manage to do the one thing I asked him not to (confront my bff).

SOOOO as you can see this woman has been at the root of much of my heartache. I still don't understand why my boyfriend chose to handle things the way he did. I don't get why he agreed to one thing and did another.

A few months later I finally had it with this woman so I contacted her via email and asked her to stop her antics. She then calls my bf and leaves him a voicemail as if they were completely cool. She said something to the effect of "Hi there. I hope everything is going well for you. I was contacted by your "friend" troubledinlove and wanted to ask that you tell her to avoid contacting me again in the future. Thanks."

WTF?????