Advertising always overstates the case. The hamburger you get in the wrapper never looks like the one in the picture. My new sneakers never made me run faster or jump higher. They are over-zealous in what they think they have to offer - I guess I never believed them in the first place so when it did not pan out - I just felt that I was right and reaffirmed my belief about them.

In some ways, it is like people approach therapy like they do religion - some believe (and it is true and good and works), some do not (what the hell are those other guys talking about and how is this not just a hoax), and some are agnostic. I think the guys who don't benefit from the belief are often wanting or at least wanting to understand what those who do believe have - and all too often some of the believers blame or seem to blame those for whom it is not working or understandable for their failure to have enough faith or "do the work" or that the non-benefitter is just not working hard enough (blame the sinner). It seems difficult (and sometimes they get defensive or offended even) for the ones who believe to understand those of us who are non-believers or agnostic are often wondering how it all works. Sometimes I think it depends on those who find a leap of faith useful and doable and those who do not. I am not good with leaps of faith. Faith at all really - so if that is what therapy requires (the process sort of language that makes me crazy) then - for me- it will never work in the way they set it up and I am okay with that - I understand I am making a choice not to give over to a therapist and if that is what causes me to find the whole thing hurdlesome - then so be it.